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Getting back together with an ex boyfriend isn't the easiest thing in the world, but with some self-work and a few helpful tips it can be done. As with really any attempt to rebuild a relationship that's fallen through, your main goal should be to show your partner that you've dealt with any problems you may have had that contributed to the end of you two, and I can show you how to best achieve this.
Chances are good that if your ex boyfriend was the one who did the "breaking up," it was either because the relationship became stale or claustrophobic. Translation: either things were slowing down "between you," or you were nagging the living daylights out of the poor guy. Men really can't handle an overbearing woman, and if they're faced with being trapped by a controlling she-devil...they usually run.
So how do you get him back? Well, stop doing the things that drove him away. Analyze yourself and find out why he left you, and take all the steps you can to "fix what's wrong." If you don't do this, any attempts you get back with him will fail even if they succeed. Even if he does take you back, the relationship is pretty certain to go the way of the first.
So take the initial "standoff" time when you just break up and aren't talking to each other to get yourself motivated for some self-renovations. Give him some space, don't bother him while he's taking some time to heal up, and use that time and space of your own to do some repairs as well. Work on your attitude, any irritating personal quirks you may have that could have driven him away...whatever you think contributed to the breakup. I know you probably don't like hearing me fire off all these insulting potential flaws, but they're things to consider if you want to get him back.
Once some time has passed, and you've done some work on yourself and he's had time to recuperate from the breakup, you can make contact with him again. Remember, this isn't to talk about your failed relationship or try to get him back right here and now...when you first talk to him again you should be inquiring about how he's doing, just checking in on him. I'd imagine he probably knows how much you cared about him while you were together, and he's probably not going to consider it odd that you care about how he's doing right now.
Start off slow and light. Build up contact gradually, over a period of time. Eventually you two will get a little more comfortable with each other again, and then you can see each other again. Invite him to do something fun that the two of you used to really enjoy doing together. This sort of thing should help him remember the great things about being with you, and it's a good chance that he'll miss it.
When you're together, do your best to show how much you've changed about yourself, how those things that drove him away aren't a part of you anymore. It's really important that he sees how much you've improved. Another good idea is to try to stay in shape or get back into shape if you've had a couple pitfalls. Obviously you want to appear attractive, and you may actually get more benefits from it than attracting just his eye. If other guys take notice and express interest in you, it'll not only boost your self confidence but also draw his attention as well. It seems a little low-down and dirty, but a little jealousy can go a long way. I'm not saying to act on anybody who may be flirting with you, but getting some attention is a good thing, because it can lead to getting HIS attention.
The most important thing that I can tell you is to learn from the mistakes of the first relationship, and don't repeat them. If you charge right back into a relationship with him without changing the things about yourself that caused problems the first time, you're just setting it up to fail again and break both your hearts again.
